Yes!

Yes it was violent

How is
this violent?

In this conversation, one of the parties is manipulating the other by reflecting a version of reality in which she is to blame. The more the victim attempts to present her version of the situation, the more the abuser twists what she is saying to show that she is in the wrong. This is a common form of psychological violence that is very effective in generating feelings of guilt in the victim so that she gives in to the abuser's demands.

In your opinion

Is the abuser's so-called concern a justification for his response?

No

Someone who is motivated by worry or concern might send multiple messages but the tone and content of these messages would be different: "Where are you sweetheart, I'm worried…" "Phew, I'm relieved." There would be no attempts to coerce or blame the other person as there are in this conversation.

An all too common phenomenon

80%

Nearly 80% of the participants stated they had been harassed by their partner by means of a mobile app and nearly 70% reported that their partner had demanded an immediate response to his text messages.

In an online survey that SOS Violence conjugale conducted with 309 victims of domestic in the summer of 2019

  • Have you recognized your situation
    in these conversations?
  • Have you recognized
    someone else’s situation?
  • Would you like to talk about it?

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Choose a texversation
Choose a texversation
Choose a texversation
Choose a texversation
My way or the highway
My way or the highway
Hungry like the wolf
Hungry like the wolf
Breathing space
Breathing space
Every breath you take
Every breath you take
Can't touch this
Can't touch this

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