Yes!

Yes it was violent

How is
this violent?

This conversation contains many forms of violence, including sexual violence (he forces her consent), threats (infidelity and breaking up) and manipulation in the form of "gaslighting" (telling her she had consented to sex when it's not true). The abuser takes control of the conversation and maintains that control regardless of what the victim says. He is uninterested in what she thinks or feels and uses violence to impose his will.

In your opinion

If the victim ends up saying "OK, if it's that important to you. We can have sex…" Would this be considered consent under the law?

No

Sexual consent must be freely given, informed and voluntary. Consent obtained under pressure and threats is not free, and someone who initiates sex on this basis is committing sexual assault.

Sexual violence in the context of young people's intimate relationships

1/5 in girls.

1/20 in boys.

Sexual violence, whether physical or verbal, is often present in situations of intimate partner violence. Among young people under 18, nearly one out five girls and one out of 20 boys reports having been subjected to at least one incident of sexual violence by an intimate partner in the last 12 months.

Riberdy and Tourigny (2009)

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Choose a texversation
Choose a texversation
Choose a texversation
Choose a texversation
My way or the highway
My way or the highway
Hungry like the wolf
Hungry like the wolf
Breathing space
Breathing space
Every breath you take
Every breath you take
Can't touch this
Can't touch this

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